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Sunday, December 16, 2012

Grief and Recovery

Grief happens and you do not even realize its impact on your life.  You are immersed in your feelings and the feelings make you care less about engaging in daily living.  The extent to which you do not care is quite scary.  You can totally let go of daily responsibilities and lull yourself along.  It takes a few months of letting go before you look around you and realize that you have been depressed and that your lack of caring for the present has hurt you.  The damage is done and now you get worried about how to recover from the disaster that has become your life!

The first step is to acknowledge the present and the second step is to engage in uplifting activities in the present and the third step is to start along the longer term path to engaged living.  One step enough for me.  It is not easy to muster up the courage to acknowledge the present moment.  Your mind would rather ruminate and linger in the blues.  Breathing in and out helps pull you into the present moment.  Focus on the breathe.  Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.  Notice the movement of your diaphragm as you breathe in and breathe out.  Draw your awareness into your body and notice how your body feels.  Continue to focus on your breath.  Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.  Just this process of conscious breathing will give you a focus on the present moment.  Your mind is settled down in the present and you are be calmer and relaxed.  The noise in your head has dissipated away.

You exist in the here and now.  You notice your surroundings and do not attach any meaning to the surroundings.  Attaching a meaning creates emotion and want to avoid any emotion in the present moment.  Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.  You are a good human being; God loves you and you love yourself.  Breathe in, breathe out.  You are grateful for your life; you are unique and special and worthy of love.  God loves you and you love yourself.  You are safe and there is kindness all around you.  You are loved and you are returning the love.  Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.

You step into a pool of kindness and as you are enveloped by kindness.  Kindness heals all the pain in your body and in your mind.  You are unique and special, you are loved by everyone.  How can anyone not love you?  You are wonderful and nice and you are grateful for your life.  Smile to yourself and share the kindness from your heart with the next person that you meet.  Share the kindness, share the gratitude, share the love.  Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out.

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